One of the biggest struggles that gays, lesbians and transgendered individuals have to face is coming out to their family and friends. Of course, their ability or inability (in some cases) to come out to their family could depend on a number of factors.
If they are in a socially accepting family, More >
“There is no one right or wrong way to come out. It’s a lifelong process of being ever more open and truewith yourself and others — done in your own way and in your own time” (HRC, 2008)
For the vast majority of GLBT people, thinking about “coming out” to family and friends is something we consider More >
Coming Out to parents and family is a very difficult process. In part, it is about you. You are sharing something very personal with people you love. This makes it a time when you could become closer and more attached, but it also carries the risk of rejection and pain. Coming Out is also about More >
Many authors and theorists have written about the Coming Out process. There are many models and many different stages proposed. What follows is a good basic model for this process.Self-Recognition as Gay
More than just an awareness of attraction to members of the same sex, it involves More >
A friend of ours, Aron Meltzner, shared his coming out letter with us. It is a beautiful heartfelt letter to his parents about his feelings as he came out to them. He has given us permission to share this very personal letter with all of you. He has since married his long time boyfriend, Nick and More >
Coming out as a lesbian was an hours-long ordeal for Amanda Brandino. At 15 years old, Brandino told her best friend she had a secret. After about three hours of sidestepping, that friend became the first person Brandino told she was gay. “She was sort of shocked. She almost More >
Be Yourself: Questions and Answers for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Youth. Today’s youth face more social pressures than ever, especially since young people are coming out at increasingly younger ages. This publication offers a supportive approach to common questions asked by teens who More >
Most Follow Typical Stages
The purpose of this is to inform gay and lesbian young adults about the process most parents go through when their child’s homosexual orientation is disclosed.
This article is credited to Tom Sauerman and PFLAG Philadelphia
The stages to be More >
“I was blessed to find out who in my life was real; which relationships were based on love,” writes Derek Schell, who was openly gay on his college basketball team.
Since coming out in More >
I never imagined the day I’d come out. For a long time, I lived in the same fear that many others currently live in. With the help of my best-four-legged-friend, Thor, I decided to make this video and share my coming out story. A big thanks to all the brave people on here who have taken the time to More >
Coming out to your family can be overwhelming. You don’t know the response until you tell them… and then it’s too late. I hope this blog (written with a gay friend) will help. Jacob, this is for you.
Be honest This is the most fundamental piece of advice, and also the most important. It is so easy More >
Coming out for anyone can be scary, because you can’t really say, “Just kidding!” if someone goes ballistic. Becca took a courageous step to come out to her sister away at college and was quite relieved at her loving response. Because they had been reading my blogs, they shared their conversation More >
“They kicked me out on my 18th birthday for being gay… I’ve tried to contact them… I don’t know if they still love me.” Jonathan Allen, America’s Got Talent
My husband and I sat stunned as this young man sang Pavarotti on “America’s Got Talent.” Tears filled our eyes as his story settled on us, More >
Most GLBT folks came out once, usually to parents, brothers and sisters, and friends. That was stressful enough. Let’s explore the experiences of grandparents who have gone through or are thinking about The Second Coming Out – to their grandchildren.
Thalia Verros of Mashpee has three More >
Parents aren’t blind, and the clues are often there. Some research suggests that sexual orientation can show itself even at 3 years old. In our family, by the time our youngest son came out at 13, my wife and I had long progressed from inkling to conviction. A toddler who wore a feather boa around More >
Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays spokeswoman Shelley Argent said the campaign was designed to garner support from mainstream families for gay marriage, on the grounds that gay children were “born that way”.
“Being lesbian or gay is not a choice,” she said. “It’s got nothing to do with More >
It began as a classroom discussion about families. First-graders at the Burr Elementary School in Newton, Massachusetts, asked teacher David Gaita whom he lives with. According to press accounts of the exchange, Gaita told the children that he is gay, and that he lives with a partner, “someone you More >
Two strangers, Amie Shea and Erin Margolin, share a unique commonality. Both their dads came out to them as gay, late in life.
Erin Margolin, now 36, was in high school when her parents announced that they were getting a divorce—at the same time her father explained that the marriage was ending More >
I’m gay. And I play sports.
I don’t blame them for their ignorance because until I build up the courage to walk out of the closet with my head More >
Your son or daughter just sat you down and announced that he or she is gay or lesbian. While not all parents will have a negative reaction, some will experience shock. A range of emotions will storm through your head. Before you react, and possibly regret what you are about to say, take some time More >
If you are concerned your child is gay, I’m glad you are here. It tells me you’re trying to accept and love your child. Many parents miss this opportunity and both the parents and children suffer. I’ve experienced homosexuality from many angles and feel the way it is handled is of utmost importance More >
A new study finds that openly acknowledging one’s sexual orientation is more than just a societal question, but an action with an impact on public health.
Researchers affiliated with the University of Montreal say lesbians, gays and bisexuals (LGBs) who have “come out” have lower stress hormone More >
Are you gay and out in college? Or, are you planning on coming out in college? College is much less insular than high school campuses can be. It’s a great time to explore your interests and your sexuality.
I didn’t come out until I went to college. Here are the things I would’ve done differently More >
Holiday cards that really catch my eye, either for their brilliance or buffoonery, tend to be trying too hard. My sin, on the other hand, is not trying hard enough. I either don’t send out a card at all, producing a low-grade guilt that dogs me into the New Year, or slap together a family picture More >
Abbie’s Story I am 18, and as I grasp this issue of homosexuality, I realize that it is something I always knew, sort of a silent understanding with myself, but life went on, and growing up I never made it a big issue. I felt different from a very early age, but than again, I never knew was it was More >
If I had to give a reason I think most LGBT people are afraid to come out, it would have to be judgment. No matter the family you come from or the religion you believe in, there is always a chance that someone important in your life will judge you. It’s this fear that stops many of us from More >
Deciding to come out can be one of the hardest decisions for a LGBT person to make. It could mean anything from losing close friends to family turning their backs on you. On the flipside, it could mean being brought closer to family and friends who choose to support and defend you. Many teens, such More >